While it may seem like knowing your kid's gender may be the best way to support them, please keep in mind that they may not be ready to come out. Even if a kid knows they would be coming out to a supportive family, sharing their gender can be terrifying. Revealing one's gender can create a sense of pressure for the kid to keep their family informed or seem to finalize their gender. While neither of these may be true, these perceptions can place great burdens on these individuals. Talking to other adults, such as school Gender/Sexuality Alliance advisers can give youth a support system without coming out to the most important adults in their lives.